Relational Maintenance

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Everything needs maintenance from your vehicle to the updates on your phone to your body and making sure it’s healthy. Our teeth, our minds, all the way to the floors in our home. Maintenance is a daily part of our lives. And we all know what happens when we neglect maintenance? That’s when you find yourself on the side of the road with a broke down vehicle. That’s when your furnace quits working in the middle of winter. The effects of “maintenance neglect” are always felt.

So what about relationships? Relationships in our lives are the most important facet of our lives. The health of those relationships determines so much: how we relate to our kids, our spouse’s happiness, our promotion at work, and so much more. Doesn’t it make sense that those things indeed need maintenance as well?

During Covid-19 I have heard a repeated theme of parents and spouses finding it difficult to work in the same house. No doubt that’s hard with all the different directions we all go each day with school, work, and more. But what if this time is a forced time to do some real “relational maintenance” on those relationships you’ve neglected? Maybe you didn’t even know you had neglected them…

My personal relational maintenance

Here’s where I’ve seen some maintenance required in my own key relationships = listening! In my household, we have a running joke that I will say “huh” after someone speaks even though I heard them. But I say that, sometimes, because I wasn’t actually engaged with the person speaking. Sometimes it’s because they didn’t speak loud enough but, more often than not, I just wasn’t paying attention. I wasn’t actively listening.

So my relational management during this time is that when Sara, or anyone, starts speaking to me I want to put stuff down and actively listen!

Anyways, that’s just a little reflection that might get you thinking about your own relationships.

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