Welcome back to my blog post series called = “Not The Boss of Me.” We are naming the things that we often mistakenly give mastery over us in life and declaring, “You are NOT the boss of me!” Last time it was: limiting beliefs. Now we turn to something else we often let define our lives…
FAILURE! Why talk about failure? Because we all know that often the holidays can highlight our past failures. Holidays are the time when we want to be together with family and maybe someone isn’t there due to a past relational failure… Whatever it is for you, we all have #failed at something.
What is failure, really?
What is the big deal with the word “failure?” The definition is simple: “lack of success.” With my personality (I’m at 8 on the Enneagram) I usually see failure as something else having power over me and losing my control. I like my control! Failure for me is something I will let define me and get down on myself about. Can anyone else relate?
What would happen if we reframed failure to mean this instead: “An opportunity for growth.” This is not an attempt to be optimistic but a drive to see my failure as an opportunity for me to grow in a certain area of life. When we allow failure to mark our lives and continue to revisit that failure and dwell there, we allow it to become our boss. But listen to this:
Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.Winston Churchill
Dear Failure, it’s time to break up!
Mr. Churchill was right. And, if he really is right, then here’s the message to failure: Dear Failure, you are NOT the boss of me! So, back up!
It’s time to let go of our failure. Our country declared its independence on July 4, 1776. You can make today your Independence Day from your failure. Today can mark the day you declared your past failures were NOT the boss of you. What would really happen if you decided to grow past your failure instead of dwell within them? Only you can find out. I hope this holiday weekend marks a new chapter for your life.
The best way to start this journey is to name your failure and declare it NOT the boss of you anymore. Have the courage to continue in this great journey of life. The world needs people who continue and make the most out of their failures. This sounds simple but it’s hard in practice. The first step we must take is name our failure and dismantle it as the boss of our lives. Think through the areas of your life that you have had failure:
None of your past failures will define you if you declare, “You are NOT the boss of me!”